I have been thinking a lot lately, how important marriage is, and yet i don't think we as a race really have mastered our understanding of it.

Marriage exists solely for a man/woman to procreate create children, to carry on the inheritance of their name, and families...

However it doesn't mean same-sex relationships are incapable of being good parents, nor does it mean man/woman relationships are always source of good parenting..

When we think about this whole issue of same-sex marriage, there are many aspects of it. That we should honestly discuss and try to find a reasonable solution..

1. There should be many types and levels of civil unions, from dating to procreative unions.

2. There should be some quality controls on who gets to have kids and be parents, but do we really want to leave that up to the government of any kind? No. Sadly not their strength.

3. Also not every relationship is a form of moral ineptitude. So there for, there is a need for everyone to find a spot of happiness in their life, that doesn't make everyone feel prejudiced against, while also respecting the moral importance of good parenting and good unions...

At first, as a conservative I was against same-sex marriages, but after meeting a co-worker of mine, I have decided that there are nice, sane and ethical people out there.

So they deserve some means of being happy and creating a home, and that is fair.

However should that be the same as hetero relationships, I am not sure.

All of this is part of the history of how marriages/relationships and families have changed, from the strict/puriticanical to the hedenous (pardon my spelling).

I am not a lawyer nor politician in office, so i don't have the legal terms to create a perfect law.

But I suggest that we think carefully about this area of legality.

We do need to respect the importance of family and parenting and solid committed relationships...

Maybe we could have as a trial period, some middle ground, that for 10 years we can try a same-sex monagamy agreement.

Perhaps this helps, to formulate a new law, interesting defintion of 3 types of Monogamy on Wikipedia.com, here

Here is some quotes from wikipedia entry:

"Social monogamy refers to two people who live together, have sex with one another, and cooperate in acquiring basic resources such as food, clothes, and money.

Sexual monogamy refers to two people who remain sexually exclusive with one another and have no outside sex partners.

Genetic monogamy refers to the fact that two partners only have offspring with one another."

Isn't this very interesting, perhaps we can have degree's of marriage indicating which kind of marriage it is to be. And then say for as a test, limit same-sex marriages to social or sexual, but not genetic.

Let's prove they are stable and provide ethical examples of committed relationships.

But also adjust normal marriage agreements, to identify which type it is.

I am not saying I have the solution, I just want us to move towards one.